Relationships and the INFJ


LOVE IS: The quest for, above all else, a soul-mate. INFJs are interested only in the perfect relationship.

FALLS IN LOVE: Slowly. With their head first and then with all their heart. INFJs have a depth of caring not usually found in others.

FALLS OUT OF LOVE: Can leave a relationship once they’re sure it’s over. A partner who violates the INFJ’s values will be cut off forever.

INTIMACY: A near-spiritual experience of bonding heart and soul. It’s important for INFJs to know that their mates are happy.

COMMITMENT: Seeks a lifelong, committed relationship. INFJs approach their intimate relationships quite seriously.

MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who respects their deeply held values and and who appreciates their creativity and inspiration.


INFJ Traits - “The Protectors”

Positive Traits:

  • Extremely intuitive
  • Searchers of hidden meaning
  • Sensitive and perceptive
  • Gifted at reading others
  • Hold strong convictions and beliefs, which they live in accordance with
  • Will not compromise their ideals
  • Tend to trust their own instincts (and with good reason) – they are usually right and they usually know it
  • Genuinely warm and affirming by nature
  • Typically gentle and caring
  • Dedicated to finding/achieving the “perfect relationship”
  • Usually have good communication skills
  • Tend to be gifted writers
  • Take commitments very seriously
  • Seek lifelong relationships
  • Have very high expectations of themselves and others
  • Good listeners
  • Once they are sure a relationship is over, they are usually able to move on
  • Deep, complex and intense
  • Artistic and creative
  • Strive to create an orderly, systematic outer world for themselves
  • Constantly defining and re-defining priorities in life
  • Put lots of energy into identifying the best system for getting things done
  • Operate on an intuitive, spontaneous basis within their inner world
  • Intuitively “know” things without being able to pinpoint exactly why and without even a thorough knowledge of the subject at hand
  • Extremely insightful about people and situations
  • Most likely of all types to have “psychic” abilities
  • Concerned for others’ feelings and careful not to hurt them
  • Perfectionists
  • Believe in constant growth and are always looking to improve
  • Can, in some ways, be easy-going
  • Natural nurturer – they make loving parents and are likely to have strong bonds with their children
  • Devoted to and protective of those they care about
  • Like to work independently
  • Rarest of all types

Negative Traits:

  • Tend to hold back part of themselves – can be secretive
  • Are often hard to get to know, difficult to understand
  • May not be good with money
  • Often not good with handling practical, day-to-day concerns
  • Tendency to believe they’re always right and dismiss/ignore other peoples’ opinions, even before fully hearing them out
  • May be prone to depression
  • Intensely dislike criticism and conflict – tend to internalize conflict and may react to it with heated, explosive anger
  • May have a hard time leaving an unhealthy relationship
  • May be highly protective of themselves and overly private, only sharing what they want and when they want to share it
  • Can be stubborn
  • Rarely at complete peace with themselves – always doubt they are living up to their full potential
  • Often not good with highly detailed tasks – will either avoid these tasks or go to other extreme and become so enveloped in detail that they lose sight of big picture


i think the only thing ill ever be proud of is one of my selfies being used as a emo porn site advertisement 


you are a very attractive “emo” kid


trying to figure out someone else’s shower




Less than 24 hours until Jessica’s touch and mine will collide.
One more night to waste before we meet.

I must admit that I quite struggle with the transformation of my thoughts into words. All I can write for now, is that everything will be changed tomorrow.

The wait is almost over.

omg i ship it so hard. take lots of pictures of you both together! it won’t seem real until long after! <3 i get to see my fluffyski <3 tomorrow as well



I cannot begin to tell you how important this message is to get across. Now more than ever we are seeing girls -and now even boys- hating the way they look at younger and younger ages. Of course, as we all already know… one of the biggest contributors to our diminishing self love is the media (surprise, surprise). We are bombarded by thousands of advertisements every single day regarding improvements in the way we look. This only makes us feel even more inadequate when all the gimmicks and products don’t give us the results we were SHOWN. The absolute biggest problem with people feeling like shit about themselves nowadays is NOT because of how frequently we see these ads, or how many products are on the market; its the WAY we are lead to believe a false reality because it truly LOOKS attainable. 

This photo shows this. I’m 15 and i muck about with photoshop in my spare time, and i managed to make a natural-looking curvy girl look like a ‘perfect’, ‘sexy’ hourglass with smooth skin and a tiny waist in under 30 minutes. Yes, if you saw that in a magazine you’d know straight away that it was ‘edited’ but, would you immediately think the reality was THAT FAR OFF? I sure wouldn’t. Professional image editors have years of experience and get to sit at the editing desk for hours and even days on end with a single picture. 

The photo above was from a ‘curvy kate’ photo shoot - and there would’ve been just as much professional lighting and makeup going on as any other high fashion shoot. The only difference? When it goes back to the editing room, the girls are most likely lightly airbrushed but not significantly altered in any way. You can see the lumps and bumps and curves that 95% of the female population have. 

Even though the lingerie may have been more marketable on a stick with huge boobs, your target audience are not sticks with huge boobs. A product will always be more satisfying and pleasing to people when they don’t have to compete with -an edited- Miranda Kerr in the size 4 dress that they’re trying on in a size 12. 

So, Ask yourself next time you feel down about someone/something you saw on tv or in a magazine ‘is this real or are they only trying to sell me something?’

Nobody looks like the people in magazines. Not even them.

  • Me: No it's ok I'll be alright I don't wanna burden you with my emotional garbage don't worry




you were either a winx 


or a w.i.t.c.h


this makes me feel old.

I was totally a spy










[x] Hans sings “Love is an Open Door” with himself.


I lost it when Hans was like “Oh Hans” and Hans was like “I know”

why i love hans so much

Only one he’s gonna be happy with

Is this
i think so…

Yep, that’s me singing to myself. I’m not sure how I feel about having unleashed this upon the internet.

Mando. You are awesome.

these are actually nicer

  • 1. selfie
  • 2. what would you name your future kids?
  • 3. do you miss anyone?
  • 4. what are you looking forward to?
  • 5. is there anyone who can always make you smile?
  • 6. is it hard for you to get over someone?
  • 7. what was your life like last year?
  • 8. have you ever cried because you were so annoyed?
  • 9. who did you last see in person?
  • 10. are you good at hiding your feelings?
  • 11. are you listening to music right now?
  • 12. what is something you want right now?
  • 13. how do you feel right now?
  • 14. when was the last time someone of the opposite sex hugged you?
  • 15. personality description
  • 16. have you ever wanted to tell someone something but you didn't?
  • 17. opinion on insecurities.
  • 18. do you miss how thing were a year ago?
  • 19. have you ever been to New York?
  • 20. what is your favourite song at the moment?
  • 21. age and birthday?
  • 22. description of crush.
  • 23. fear(s)
  • 24. height
  • 25. role model
  • 26. idol(s)
  • 27. things i hate
  • 28. i'll love you if...
  • 29. favourite film(s)
  • 30. favourite tv show(s)
  • 31. 3 random facts
  • 32. are your friends mainly girls or guys?
  • 33. something you want to learn
  • 34. most embarrassing moment
  • 35. favourite subject
  • 36. 3 dreams you want to fulfill?
  • 37. favourite actor/actress
  • 38. favourite comedian(s)
  • 39. favourite sport(s)
  • 40. favourite memory
  • 41. relationship status
  • 42. favourite book(s)
  • 43. favourite song ever
  • 44. age you get mistaken for
  • 45. how you found out about your idol
  • 46. what my last text message says
  • 47. turn ons
  • 48. turn offs
  • 49. where i want to be right now
  • 50. favourite picture of your idol
  • 51. starsign
  • 52. something i'm talented at
  • 53. 5 things that make me happy
  • 54. something thats worrying me at the moment
  • 55. tumblr friends
  • 56. favourite food(s)
  • 57. favourite animal(s)
  • 58. description of my best friend
  • 59. why i joined tumblr
  • 60. ask me anything you want


i have this irrational fear that everyone hates me and everyone who says they like me is lying or is eventually going to hate me or find me annoying 


when someone stops talking to you and youre not sure what you did wrong



Must save the Jordans. [video]